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i?m rubber, you?re glue but wait, my
child
is the
bully
... help! by christa melnyk hines b ullying continues to haunt
child
ren throughout our country's communities and schools. but what do you do if you find out your
child
is a
bully
? ?the best thing you can do as a parent is have a conversation with your
child
about the
bully
ing
behavior and really listen to their thoughts on the situation. it?s very important that your
child
has a chance to share her side as well,? says lisa b. mayet, lpc, school counselor of parkview baptist school. who bullies? there are many types of
child
ren who
bully
. ?when students
bully
other students, it?s usually because they?re feeling powerless or insecure. in response to feeling that way, they try to control or put others down to elevate themselves. if a parent discovers this is the case with their
child
, it is important to recognize that your
child
is hurting and seek out help, such as mental health counseling, to help the
child
work through those feelings of powerlessness and insecurity.? says mayet. however, researchers have also found that some
child
ren who
bully
have a very high opinion of themselves, and consider themselves ?above? the
child
ren they are
bully
ing
.
child
ren who
bully
may: ? come from a home environment that is not warm and nurturing and where discipline is inconsistent or harsh. ? hang out with friends who
bully
. ? experience
bully
ing
at the hands of a sibling or another family member. ? tend to be impulsive, easily frustrated, and have difficulty following rules. ? view violence positively. know the types of
bully
ing
emotional
bully
ing
(intimidation and social alienation), verbal
bully
ing
(teasing, name-calling and making offensive remarks), and physical
bully
ing
(hitting or destroying another person's property) traditionally rule the hallways at school. these days, insidious cyber
bully
ing
creates even more torment for young victims as damaging and hurtful messages fire through virtual social networks like snapchat, instagram, twitter and facebook. ?if cyber
bully
ing
is not the most common yet, it?s becoming the most common. i think that is due to the fact that technology is readily available and kids are able to say anything while hiding behind a screen. for some kids, it?s much easier for them to type hurtful things to others rather than to say it to another
child
?s face. social media also makes it very easy for students to be able to access their fellow classmates, which makes it harder to avoid. i?d also like to note that it?s very important that parents know what social media sites their
child
ren use, and regularly monitor them to make sure they are not cyber
bully
ing
or being cyberbullied. if your
child
is being cyberbullied, be sure to document and take screenshots for proof,? says mayet. act immediately if you discover that your
child
is
bully
ing
, support the school's consequences. at parkview baptist school, ?any student who develops a behavioral pattern of assaulting, harassing, sexting,
bully
ing
or demeaning another student(s), either verbally or by social media means will be subject to disciplinary action (placed on behavior probation, suspended, or dismissed). racial insults, ethnic insults, sexual innuendos or prejudicial behavior will not be tolerated,? explains mayet. be sure to appropriately address their
bully
ing
behaviors at home, too. if your son breaks something belonging to another
child
, hold him responsible for replacing or repairing it. also, discuss his actions with him. ask him questions about the incident to determine what the
bully
ing
is about and if anyone else is involved. let him know that there will be no retaliation for being caught
bully
ing
. however, if retaliation does happen, the
child
being bullied should inform faculty immediately. mayet explains, ?the best way to prevent retaliation is to let school faculty know what?s going on. if you have good communication with the faculty, ? ? ? ? ? 2 8 b r p a r e n t s . c o m | o c t o b e r 2 0 1 8
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