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4 5 6 7 you are modeling respect. losing your cool and screaming will show your
child
that angry outbursts are okay. try to address unwanted behaviors calmly and privately, reset expectations, and remind your
child
of the consequences of his
actions
. show empathy for some
child
ren
, empathy comes very easily. other
child
ren need to be taught how to show empathy to others. teaching empathy means teaching your
child
how his
actions
affect others. saying ?excuse me? a?er bumping into a friend on the playground, or ?thank you? a?er being handed an item are first steps for teaching empathy. ?
child
ren with empathy skills will naturally be more respectful than others because they have a clear understanding of the effects of their
actions
on the people around them,? adds dixon. jill rigby garner, founder of manners of the heart, agrees, ?choosing to put the needs of others ahead of your wants grows the strength of character, character that chooses respect.? address faux pas, immediately and directly feedback on manners should be immediate and specific. if your
child
holds the door open for the next person, thank him for his thoughtfulness in holding the door. if he forgets a needed ?thank you,? model it for him right away. positive feedback encourages more positive
actions
, while corrections will remind
child
ren of the expectations of respect. deciding to let disrespectful
actions
slide will only hurt your
child
in the long run. it is easier to mold and change behavior with a young
child
rather than later when the
child
has been practicing disrespectful
actions
for years. fix it when it isn?t broken once our daughter had a tantrum about our plans changing. she was rude and disrespectful. although we did give immediate feedback and consequences, that was not the time for reteaching expectations.
child
ren will not respond favorably to a lesson about anything when they are in the throes of a meltdown or angry over a perceived wrong. instead, wait for your
child
to calm down, then readdress the disrespectful behavior when your
child
can communicate calmly. talk about what happened leading up to the event and how things could be changed to go more smoothly if it happens again. give opportunities to serve ?look for ways they can help others. nurturing a servant heart in your
child
ren encourages respect from the inside out,? says rigby garner. encourage them to volunteer at church, in a soup kitchen, or with their schools. teaching our
child
ren to be respectful won?t happen in a day, or even a week, but we will be given many opportunities. ? j u l y 2 0 1 8 | b r p a r e n t s . c o m 4 1
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