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?is stops me in my tracks. is playful
teasing
really the same as
bullying
? i?d mostly thought of
teasing
as a form of affection, especially within the family and with close friends. prosocial
teasing
. because the line between
teasing
and
bullying
can be blurry, many schools adopt zero-tolerance policies for both behaviors. nonetheless, the ability to recognize and respond appropriately to light-hearted
teasing
is a valuable social skill. communication researcher carol bishop mills, ph.d., finds that the lighter side of
teasing
benefits our social lives by building and strengthening relationships and helping us navigate conflict. but teaching youngsters to recognize the differences between kidding and tormenting isn't easy. is
teasing
bullying
? by christa melnyk hines ?oh honey, i'm only
teasing
,? i say, smiling as i ruffle my six- year-old's thick thatch of blonde hair. he's annoyed that i'd gently ribbed him about the adorable cowlick on his head, and his need for a haircut. ?
teasing
isn't allowed at school. it's
bullying
,? he says with a grave look in his blue eyes. in general,
kids
grasp the concept of affectionate
teasing
around age 10, mills says. (although, she adds, a child who is accustomed to good-natured kidding by parents may understand it earlier). affectionate
teasing
can create bonds and provoke good-natured laughter. amanda ott, school counselor at denham springs freshman high has observed, ?i see
kids
all the time at lunch joking and
teasing
between friends. i think this can be a positive thing because it makes the students feel accepted and part of a group. but, there is a line that can be crossed and even light
teasing
can turn into something more that can cause hurt feelings.? context and the nature of the relationship is key to understanding the meaning behind words. ?when
kids
get teased, they tend to focus on the negative or challenging content,? mills says. ?try to get them to take the perspective of others by asking, ?what do you think reece was doing?? and talk through that.? discuss nonverbal cues that the other child exhibited. ask questions like, ?was he laughing? was he trying to play? did he look mean when he said it?? ?en, discuss
teasing
from your child?s point of view. ?when you teased leila, did you want her 2 4 b r p a r e n t s . c o m | o c t o b e r 2 0 1 7
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