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sensible enough to stay
alone
? how to decide by denise morrison yearian w hen your
child
ren reach the age of being able to stay
home
without adult supervision, it can be a positive growth experience. however, making the decision on whether or not they are ready can be difficult. before making your decision, consider these 10 tips. 1. maturity level.
child
development experts agree, most kids are ready to stay
home
alone
somewhere between the ages of 12 and 13, but there is no magical age. since kids mature at different rates. evaluate your
child
on an individual basis. how independent and self-directed is he with regard to responsibilities such as getting
home
work and chores done, arriving at school on time, and asking for help when problems arise? 2. desire to stay
alone
. equally important, is if your
child
is willing to be
home
alone
. if he expresses reservations or objections, hold off. or, if there are other transitions going on in his life?a recent death, divorce, or relocation to a new
home
?wait until those adjustments have been made. 3. safety suggestions. consider your community?s safety, neighbor relationships, and peer influences. do you live in a safe setting with trusted neighbors your
child
can go to for help in the event of an emergency? are there peer influences in the community that cause some concern? also, address basic safety rules, such as what to do in the event of an emergency; how to handle basic first-aid; and precautions with electrical outlets, appliances, heating equipment, etc. 4. rest assured with rules. think of your
child
as her own sitter and pass along the same instructions and information you would give to a caretaker. discuss house rules, write them out and post them in a visible location, along with important phone numbers. don?t assume your daughter automatically knows your expectations for her. and remember, some rules when you are
home
, such as cooking, playing outside, and having guests, will be significantly different when you are away. 5. media guidelines. if you do not establish media guidelines, the television and computer may run continuously. agree upon a time limit for tv and technology devices, then remind your
child
what is and isn?t permissible to view. if needed, put on filters to protect your kids. 6. alternative activities. if you will be gone for an extended period of time, collaborate with your
child
about activities he can do to alleviate boredom and occupy his time: ?what do you plan to do while i?m away??? if your
child
says he doesn?t know, suggest activities?art, music, creative writing, board games, etc. this may need to be an ongoing conversation to keep ideas fresh. 7. get ready with role play. play the ?what if?? game to prepare your
child
for unexpected situations: ?what if a delivery man comes to the door?? ??there is a power outage?? ??you come
home
from school and find a broken window?? encourage her to come up with her own answers, but guide her to the right response if there?s a better choice. this builds confidence, tests her responses, and may cause her to think about the gravity of this responsibility?that it isn?t just fun and games. 8. ease into it. if you have some reservations, start with 30-minute increments during the day while you 2 8 b r p a r e n t s . c o m | n o v e m b e r 2 0 1 8
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