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?e importance of the
father
/ daughter relationship a girl?s relationship with her daddy can- not be overstated. in general, parental relationships shape us in immeasurable ways, positively or negatively, but a
father
can greatly impact his daughter for the long term. ?research shows that young women who have a strong, healthy rela- tionship with their
father
s are more confi- dent in their careers and life path choices, more likely to choose a husband who has a healthy and loving relationship with her, and have generally better mental and emo- tional health than those who do not have this kind of relationship with their
father
s. in short, daughters with healthier fa- ther relationships are better equipped for a healthy transition into adulthood,? dr. roger butner, lmft shares. and, it?s never too early to start that strong bond before
father
and daughter.
james
considers his
girls
, paetyn, 10, and ryleigh, 6, to be the lights of his life, and he is determined to be theirs. he knows the significance of his role in their lives, and he lives out that calling daily. ?i can set the tone for any man who will come into their lives in the future: friends, boyfriends, hus- bands. my job is setting a good example on ?it is the biggest responsibility that i could ever have as a man to be a
father
for these two
girls
,? jarred
james
states confidently.
james
is a
father
who prides himself on his ability to throw a great tea party just as well as he tosses a spiral pass. he specializes in both the soft and the strong, mastering his nail polishing technique along with breaking down football plays for his
girls
. providing unconditional love each and every day, though, is his main goal. by joy holden their time count whether it?s family picnics in the living room, playing pretend, or a night out at the local bowling alley. in ad- dition to friday family nights, the
james
family also has daddy/daughter dates, which is good for both dad and for his wife to have some time of her own. paetyn and ryleigh love to go get pizza and froyo with their dad on their dates. one of the sweetest traditions
james
has with his daughters is their bedtime ritual. he reads to them, prays with them, tucks them in, and then, they sing their song to- gether. when the
girls
were born,
james
picked a song for each girl. his hope is that when the
girls
get married, the
father
/ daughter dance will be to their special song. paetyn?s is ?isn?t she lovely? by ste- vie wonder, and ryleigh?s is ?my girl? by the temptations. from nighttime lullabies to waltzes in wedding dresses, the
james
girls
will always have their daddy?s voice singing over them. tough and tender some men may feel participating in ?girly? activities may jeopardize their masculinity.
james
scoffs at that idea, and believes that by enjoying his
girls
? in- terests, they can enjoy being a part of his. daddy?s
girls
. a
father
?s passion for raising his daughters how a man treats a woman by how i treat their mom. no matter what?s going on, i want them to know dad?s going to be there, the rock they can always count on.? wheth- er it?s a dance recital, a soccer game, a play, or another performance,
james
wants his
girls
to always be able to look up and see him in a crowd. ?ough he works demand- ing hours in real estate development, he makes his
girls
? activities a priority, even if he doesn?t get there right on time. ?daddy?s never too far away. i want them to know that i always make time for them.? quality time and worthiness dr. butner has observed over years of counseling that ?the most common nega- tive contributions of
father
s upon their daughters are either those who simply seemed too busy with other things to give them proper time and nurturing or those who actively sent the wrong messages about where their daughters' worth comes from.?
father
s can avoid this negativity by spending quality time with their
girls
and reinforcing their inherent value. it?s a sim- ple formula: time plus affirmation equals positive impact. ?e
james
family has that quality time dynamic on lock. ?ey know how to make 3 8 b r p a r e n t s . c o m | o c t o b e r 2 0 1 7
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