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quick q&a before
kids
, i never thought i would? zipline and do outdoors adventure things
. the parenting item i couldn?t live without? calendar. in my fridge, you will always find? cheese. my guilty pleasure is? taking myself out. i will go to a movie and lunch and treat myself. growing up, i knew i wanted to? be a leader and lead something. i can?t stop listening to? jazz. and not a follower. i want them to be okay with who they are and the skin they?re in. i tell them to find their voices and use them. how has parenthood changed you? c: it really has mellowed me out a little bit. they?ve given me perspective. everything doesn?t have to be perfect or right on schedule, and to do the best you can. what?s one thing your kids have taught you? c: enjoy the moment and have fun. they love joke books and read jokes to me all the time. what advice would you give to other parents? c: don?t overschedule and don?t feel pressure to overschedule. we can get into a rhythm of things with certain groups and feel the need to do all the sports and clubs and things. you don?t have to. do what works for your family
. we juggle a lot of things, but my husband and i talk and reevaluate all the time. we check in with the kids frequently. know your family dynamic and don?t feel pressured to do what other people are doing. how does coaching influence your parenting? c: it has reminded me to recognize the good things and verbally acknowledge them to my kids because i do that with my players. i make it a point to find the things they are doing well and encourage them, so that i am making deposits into them. when i need to get on them a little bit or challenge them, they know it?s coming from a place of goodness in me because i?ve already affirmed them. in what ways does being the leader of a high school affect your family? c: we have had conversations around the expectations for my kids, especially being on the same campus, and then with my husband about time commitments. then, in the community we?ll be recognized more because of the association with a place, so we may be under more scrutiny. i?ve been blessed though, in being a pastor?s kid, that i?ve always been watched. i am reminding my kids that there will be a higher standard that some people will hold them to. i am trying to prepare them for any pressures that will come with that. what are the most important things you want your children to learn from you and your dedication to education? c: anything you set your mind to do, you can do it. no one can stop you from accomplishing anything you desire as long as you put the work in. honestly, my kids have been one of the main reasons that i?ve pushed myself the way that i have because i want them to see someone who looks like them in their home accomplishing things. that way they don?t to have to look for some role model somewhere, but they can say, ?my mom did this and my dad did this, we can do this.? the more we are a demonstration of what their possibilities are, the wider their world of possibilities becomes. what do you want your family to gain from this experience of being in leadership? c: unity and togetherness. no matter what position we are in, no matter what is happening or how busy we are, we are always a family unit, and we are great people within ourselves no matter what titles we may hold. ? photo credit: leah conti s e p t e m b e r 2 0 1 7 | b r p a r e n t s . c o m 4 3
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