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kyndal
emphasizes, ?it?s easy to think about what may happen down the line. focus on the milestone in front of you. if we get lost in the future, we end up losing our present.? consequences of letting the what if?s win your mind can become a dark place if the what if monsters
take up residence and stay awhile. ?ey are guaranteed to bring isolation, depression, insecurity, loneliness, and self-doubt with them. both kyndal and khayriyyah acknowledge the difficulties of not confronting the fears. new mothers ?may beat themselves up because they are not perfect moms. all that pressure is counterproductive. ?eir biggest desire is to be a good mom and do things well, but they end up doing the opposite by being anxious and stressed,? kyndal explains. what do you do with the what if monsters? when your what if monsters are running wild and keeping you up at night, you need to figure out how to capture them, tame them, and make them useful. ??e important thing to do is know what to do with those questions
. it?s not bad to struggle or have doubts or questions, but it?s what we do with them that?s the game changer,? kyndal encourages. turn that fear energy into effective and useful energy. how do you catch a what if monster? kyndal instructs that you should stop, recognize the thought, and ask what emotion it is making you feel. call out the question and the emotion. confront it head on and then flip it upside down. now that you?ve caught it, tame it and use it for your benefit. kyndal elaborates, ?turn those doubts and fears into productivity. pray, talk to a friend, or read a book that relates. turn that fear into positive behavior. maladaptive coping skills feed anxiety and depression, but adaptive skills feed healthy emotions.? understanding your feelings and your parenting style is key in the pregnancy journey. khayriyyah offers, ?you may want to talk to someone, a friend or family member. maybe you can consult some books or appropriate online blogs or resources. ask your provider or doula any questions. not talking about it is not a good idea. new mothers worry about judgment from others when they haven?t even been a parent yet.? overall, know that you are strong, mamas. you can defeat the what if monsters and be wiser from it. parenting is full of unknowns and lack of control, but the lessons we learn from it are life changing. remind yourself that you have been given instincts and abilities to do what?s best for your baby, and where you are lacking, there are people surrounding you to help find the answers. kyndal reminds us, ?teach yourself to stay in the present. when you?re running a marathon, if you?re worried about mile 26 and you?re on mile six, you?ll drive yourself crazy.? be where you are and do what you can today. spring 2017 | pink & blue 27
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