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60 brparents.com | january 2016 for example, sometimes arguments ensue when one
child
wants to be left alone, while another craves attention. taking
each
aside gives you the chance to draw their attention to the other?s point of view. you can say, ?jane, your younger brother really looks up to you. do you think maybe he?s just wanting to be with you because of that?? and you can suggest to the younger one that his enthusiasm might be overwhelming to his sister and propose that he find a creative way to invite her to do something fun after she?s had some time alone.
kids
to
kids
: t
each
them to value
each
other parents also need to cast a vision for their
kids
of having a loving home environment where everyone treats
each
other as special. make it a habit to take time to celebrate
each
other?s accomplishments. talk with
each
child
about ways they could do something unexpected for their siblings. encourage them to speak well about and to one another. ?en praise them liberally when they do any of these things. when
kids
begin developing a pattern of displaying these behaviors, the level of conflict in the home subsides. after all, it?s hard to be angry with someone who has done something kind for you. we saw the benefits of casting this vision when my seven- year-old daughter?s birthday approached. everyone in the household grew tired of her exclamations of how many days were left until her celebration. at first her sisters hounded her to stop, and fights erupted over her right to have a birthday countdown. ?en one day my eldest daughter found a solution. she began announcing
each
morning the number of days remaining for her sister. evelyn loved the recognition and her excessive counting down stopped. being made to feel special by her sister solved the struggle they?d been having. dr. turansky points out that the key element is remembering that we?re trying to t
each
our
child
how to relate to other
child
ren. ?it?s your
child
?s first class in relationship school,? he says. ??ey?re building the skills necessary to be successful.? look for ways to implement these three approaches to bickering in your family. because when ?special? becomes the byword in your home, your family life will be exceptional indeed. ?
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