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advises. use your words! do not hold your partner to an impossible standard of mind-reading. allison suggests, ?carve out a small amount of time in your daily routine to check- in and discuss not just facts and tasks but how those events made you feel.? divide and conquer chores change drastically with the arrival of a baby. bottle preparation and washing, increase in laundry, and diaper changing all factor in on top of the other house chores that you are both too tired to do. have a conversation prior to baby?s arrival and plan who will do what. ?ere will be some things the mother cannot do for a while, and if breastfeeding, some chores that the father cannot do. meet in the middle and split up what you can. allison shares that serving one another
can go a long way. she explains, ?focus postpartum relationship recovery postpartum on service to one another. you won?t have as much time together, but seeing your spouse attempt to ?out-serve? you keeps your heart open to one another.? in addition to the chores, do little things for one another to show your love. find time, make time date nights are really special and enjoyable, but they may not always be practical. spending quality time together in your home is a must. allison agrees that it ?will have a similar positive effect and may be a little more feasible than a whole evening away.? she also recommends, ?you must hold firm to what makes you both feel like ?us.? ?e first time my husband and i shut the door to our bedroom and watched tv without our baby in the room felt like a vacation to me, because it was so familiar and comforting. it was so nice to know we?d still be able to do that simple thing even after the baby turned everything upside down for a while.? try also doing something your spouse or partner loves to do to make them feel special. ?as always, if something is important
to your spouse, it needs to be important to you, even if you don?t totally get it. because you?ll want them to return the favor soon.? although you may feel at times that the magic is gone, it isn?t. it?s just hiding. together you two can rediscover it, dust it off, and recover that spark in new ways. allison speaks from experience, ?flexibility is key. life is going to look different, but the things that are most important don?t have to change if you can be flexible and come up with creative solutions.? as always, if something is important to your spouse, it needs to be important to you, even if you don?t totally get it. because you?ll want them to return the favor soon. fall 2016 | pink & blue 37
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