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: two of your most trusted people stand beside you, each holding a leg and coaching you with all of their hearts. or your family
members hurling insults at one another in the hallway of the labor and delivery unit as you are wheeled in for your c-section. for one local mother the latter scenario took place. kim?s labor was not going how she expected. after laboring six hours, she developed a fever and her baby was not moving. ?e vaginal birth she had been planning became impossible. in her delivery room
stood her husband, mother, and sister, but once the move to the or was decided, she had to trim that group down to two. her mother, unaware of a previous conversation kim and her sister had shared about a possible emergency c-section, would have to wait with the rest of the family. just at the time when kim needed support and calm from her family, a confrontation exploded. her sister and mother argued with one another and said things they both would regret. ?e delivery room decision lingered beyond the operating doors. kim?s advice to new mothers? ?discuss everything prior to delivery!? you have been dreaming about the moment your little bundle enters the world since you discovered you were pregnant. but how many other members of your family have been dreaming of that very same moment, too? ?e birth of a child is a momentous occasion for the entire family, but not everyone can be in the delivery room. you, the mother, gets to decide who is with you during the most intense minutes and hours of your life. ?e delivery room is a place of miracles and magic, but also one of stress and pain. mothers want their most trusted encouragers in that room with them because they are unsure what they will face. labor and delivery can include several phases that involve visitors coming in and out. is it a natural birth? ?en you may want just your select few for the duration of labor. is it an epidural? ?en you may have visitors in and out while your labor progresses until you start to push. is it a c-section? ?en you will be even more limited in your choices. depending on your family situation, this one small decision could cause some conflict. long-time labor and delivery nurse, alecia roy confirms, ?i have seen conflicts over who is to be in the delivery room. many times, it is the patient?s mother or mother-in-law. ?e patient is too tired to insist on who she does or does not want in the room. ?e excitement of a new baby often takes over and family members forget this is a very emotional and vulnerable time for the new mom-to-be.? families have been torn apart over this decision. either the choice was not conveyed clearly to the family and feelings were hurt or the preference was ignored and feelings were hurt. how do you approach this potentially explosive conclusion? choose early and share early. the delivery room decision by joy holden 30 pink & blue | fall 2016
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